Ask E. Jean - Tormented? Driven Witless? Whipsawed by confusion?Top Campus Sex ColumnistsPubic Schoolby: Margo ScottNorthwestern University The Daily Northwestern
How bare is too bare when it comes to the hair down there?
With the onset of low-rise pants, short skirts, thong underwear, celebrities going commando and other crotch-related fashion trends, so-called "avant-garde" pubic hair can't be too far behind.
Ever the fashionista, I asked my esthetician, “Bridget”, about it, and I was astounded. She told me she could do various personalized shapes, letters, and that she may be able to do color. Is this what's expected now? Am I behind the pubic curve? I always thought my monthly Brazilian wax was on the cutting edge, but I consider it more of a personal preference than a fashion statement. Personal hygiene is something we've been told is a good thing since we were five (when our mothers reminded us to wash behind our ears and between our toes). Since then, most of us have, hopefully, taken that lesson to heart. But what's the litmus test for measuring pubic hygiene? My guy friends have told me that, as long as a girl has a clean, well-groomed, shall we say, “downtown”, they're happy. Dissatisfied with this vague response, I delved deeper - as in, I got my boys wasted and forced details out of them - and discovered that men are actually much more opinionated on the matter than the previous statement might suggest. Most guys - at least, the ones I talked to - want a cropped, mostly-bare southern region. They want to be able to see what they're dealing with. Some wanted totally bare, some craved a little covering, but, for the most part, all my buds agreed that less is more. This is bad news for straight girls who care about that sort of thing and don't have a “Bridget” in their life. (The lesbians I spoke with didn't care about hairstyle per se, as long as the girl seemed like she took care of herself and was clean.) Now, on to you guys. "But guys don't have to worry about pubic hair - they're guys," you say. I beg to differ. My girlfriends and I have talked about this before - rather extensively, in fact - and we think if we're supposed to groom, so should men. Personally, I think at least a little trimming is in order, especially in the testicular region; nothing is grosser than long ball hair. I don't advocate a full-on metrosexual manscape - believe me, hair grows there for a reason - but trimming is always a turn-on. It can also enhance sensation and, perhaps, encourage your partner to stay down there longer. In conclusion, dear readers, personal hygiene and cleanliness are always a plus, and pubic hair can reflect that. Now that you know what potential partners may think of your south-of-the-border style, you can make an educated decision about your hair down there. But, regardless of what's trendy, I think pubic hair styles should be a personal choice - even if you opt for the full on furry. Nicely done! I love how you used "truth serum!"
If guys were smart, they'd realize that trimming things up down there makes them look bigger, and going completely bald makes them look like they belong in gay porn.
Great column, Margo! We call it manscaping in the west coast. LOL.
Kim, you beat me to it, that's exactly what I was going to say (about trimming making you look bigger)! Great minds think alike!
Clean and taken care of always a must.
Kim - Janet - must agree whole heartedly. It also makes women look "tighter" I've been told. But lets not forget neither sex like to pick hair out of their teeth. I'm not sure how hair (or lack there of) could make anyone "look tighter", but I do agree that picking pubes out of your teeth is not that fun. But, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to!
Susan, I agree with you.
I love the word Manscape. I heard that word a while ago but wasn't clear about the definition so I substituted manscape for sasugefest as a nicer way to describe a room or convention awash with men.
Now manscape turns out to be about pubic hair landscaping? What a shame. What word am I going to use as a nicer way to describe a sausagefest? Man room? Man sea? Testosterone central? Help. Wow- excellent co opted use of "manscape"! I almost prefer your new definition to mine! So, now, perhaps the real question is what shall we call excessive male grooming?
Excellent article Margo, thank you for addressing this. I agree that all women should have proper upkeep. It's not my job to say how much or how little hair should be on a women, but for a man I have a few questions. What's too short for a man? Should they go for the buzzcut? A quick scissors trim? Does this include shaving down some thigh hair?
Let's open up the forum, as you already know what I think- Ladies, Gentleman? What of the Double B's question?
Porn stars go bald for a reason, and wax if you're a real man.
three Months, almost.... how about something new???? You're one of my Favorites, but I want something new once in a while.
Nice to see LOTS of Columnist Commenting on this article.
Two Questions:
Why are there so few comments on this excellent article? and Why don't the columnist like to comment on each others columns???? Wow, thanks for the compliment Nathen! I have fallen off the writing wagon a bit (real jobs suck!!) but I promise to come back with some new stuff asap
I understand Margo, I just love reading well thought out, and written columns. Good information, Priceless...
new column please. and to those reading this, I've been wrong before, but I think they want more comments to show people are reading their articles.. SO COMMENT.
I would have to agree with you on this one. I used to just shave enough so that I could wear a bathing suitnor bikini and not have to worry about the hair showing. I used to think that black women did not shave down there unless they had "nappy" hair and since I didn't have nappy hair
I could keep mines. I also heard that it itches and cause hair bumps as well. I recently changed my mind when I had a ex boyfriend who is barber. He wanted to shave an "S" on my TaTa and I let him do it. This caused a problem with my current boyfriend, but that is a whole other story in itself. He shaved everthing but the "S" and it was so cute. Since both of the guys named starts with an "S" I was able to just say it stood for their names. LOL I have been clean shaving ever since and bump free. Ladies I was amazed at how pretty my TaTa was, since i had never really seen it before. LMAO Shave it looks and feels so much better!!! |
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