So what does he mean, he doesn’t want to lose me when its convenient for him?

My guess is you're his back up. He WOULD be making time for you if he was interested/serious.

Wouldn't it just be easier to say that, if he had someone else.

Of course; but learn to get that point anyway from his actions.

If you need more and he won't give it, what can you do? You are unhappy with the lack of action on his part. If he does everything this way, then that will cause more problems down the line in other areas.

Sometimes people are just not a good fit.

You are absolutely right. I just have to accept that

He's thinking of you like a summer cottage. He's not going to spend a lot of time there. But when he's got a few free days, he'll swing by.
It doesn't mean you suck. It means he does.

It's hard to say what he means without more details.
But in general, if you never see the guy and he's not deep in the Amazon completely unable to call or Skype, he's keeping you on the back burner.
I've seen both men and women do that. Some people have a need to always have a few pots on the fire. Or they just don't want to burn bridges or can't stand the thought of someone hating them.
And if he is seeing other people, it's not necessarily easier for him to tell you. It would certainly make things easier for you if he told you he was, but it may not serve his purposes.
If a guy really likes you, he wants you to be happy. If you ask for something that he is able to give, he should have no problem trying to give it to you.
It sounds like he's doing the bare minimum required to keep you on the books.
To be blunt, "I don't want to lose you" sounds like "I don't want to lose the prospect of having sex with you at some point in the future".

I think Andrew's description is quite apt! Listen to him <3

Whats the problem? He is not a willing participant. End of story. Next!

He says he doesn't want to lose you. Well, then he needs to put the effort in.

If I don't want to lose my job, I have to show up to work.
If I don't want to lose my apartment, I have to make sure rent shows up every month.
If I don't want to lose an opportunity, I have to act on it.

Does he want to lose you? I don't know. Hell, we can take him at his word. Why the hell not. Maybe he doesn't want to lose you.

But who gives a shit what he wants. He's not doing what he needs to do to keep you, and that's pretty much all that matters.

I'd say, barring other details, I'd at the most give him one last answer to his want, which is, "If you don't want to lose me, ______ needs to happen." And if he doesn't deliver immediately, I'd say "Later!" If he knows how to keep you, and he doesn't do what he needs to do, then he's not trying to keep you. Regardless of what he "wants." Quite frankly, it's not all about what he wants.

Thank you all for you advice it has been more than helpful