Men are skittish creatures sometimes and the one word they never want to hear (much like toddlers) is "No."

I used to walk around, with my head in the clouds, thinking of stuff, not paying much attention. Combined with the fact that I am a little over six feet tall, I appeared unapproachable. Guys were intimidated by my height to begin with and the fact that I always seemed to be somewhere else was the capper.

At some point I looked around and learned to look at people and smile more, act a little silly. I also cultivated any and all people because girls always like to go out with other girls and a lot of them know guys or have bf's who have guy friends and well, you get the idea.

Cultivate people. Go where there are people and especially places that have a particular interest for you, whether it is a class or a sport or whatever. That way you will meet people with a common interest right off the bat and that will give you something to talk about, whether it is bird watching or bowling, a cooking class or yoga.

I don't know how old you are or whether you work or go to school or both but you should also make it clear with trusted women friends that you are on the lookout but only do this with women who will help you and not talk about you behind your back, only giving you tips or perhaps setting up group situations with guys that might catch your eye.

In the meantime, I cannot stress enough that you must keep on living your life, doing what you like, as you like even if you are casting a critical eye over the men that come into your circle.