Here's the thing, when it comes to online dating it's one big Wild Wild West. There are no rules, no one is obligated to do anything, especially if they have never met you.
My experience of the online dating world was guys could promise you the world from behind their dating screens but never felt the need to keep the promise. You chatting with this guy in the best case scenario is akin to him having knocked the door and you opened it. Whether he actually comes in and stays is another hazy matter altogether.
When I was in the dating world I would have a great first chat with a guy and immediately go into girly fantasy mode. They on the other hand just had a good chat to while away the boredom and tedium of daily life, a scenario which they had been through probably several times already...in the course of one day. Until they actually followed up on our conversation and we met not just the once but wanted to keep on meeting IRL all bets are off. You should act that way as well.
My experience of the online dating world was guys could promise you the world from behind their dating screens but never felt the need to keep the promise. You chatting with this guy in the best case scenario is akin to him having knocked the door and you opened it. Whether he actually comes in and stays is another hazy matter altogether.
When I was in the dating world I would have a great first chat with a guy and immediately go into girly fantasy mode. They on the other hand just had a good chat to while away the boredom and tedium of daily life, a scenario which they had been through probably several times already...in the course of one day. Until they actually followed up on our conversation and we met not just the once but wanted to keep on meeting IRL all bets are off. You should act that way as well.
reply to Cy
send this answer to a friendHe cast his net and found a fish. Don't think anything of it if he throws you back. This is online dating so there are essentially no rules, protocol, and definitely no commitments. You guys chatted and that's it.
And it's only been 3 days. If the connection you had was real then if he gets a hold of you then consider if it's something you want to do. Other than that, you had a nice chat.
And it's only been 3 days. If the connection you had was real then if he gets a hold of you then consider if it's something you want to do. Other than that, you had a nice chat.
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send this answer to a friendI guess you are both right.
I just can't stop thinking about the conversation we had and that he was the one who asked about setting up a date and no word.
I thought maybe he was just shy or busy.
I'll try and put my thoughts on the backburner for a few days and if he messages me then great and if not his loss.
I just can't stop thinking about the conversation we had and that he was the one who asked about setting up a date and no word.
I thought maybe he was just shy or busy.
I'll try and put my thoughts on the backburner for a few days and if he messages me then great and if not his loss.
reply to Tamara
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He is not shy or busy. He is taken, unavailable or just not that into you.
Sorry, babe.... I speak the truth.
Sorry, babe.... I speak the truth.
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This guy asked to chat via the sites IM app and he seemed to hit it off from the get go. After maybe talking there for an hour or so he asked for my personal msn username and chat there instead.
We joked around about what the dating world seems to be all about and how guys typically on those sites just look for a hook up or act pervy.
I really enjoyed his sense of humour and we kept complimenting each other.
He was the one who brought up that he was interested in meeting up and hanging out. Told me he loved talking to me and after 5 hours of talking we agreed to get some sleep and talk again real soon and set up an actual date.
That was Friday night and we are now Monday night and no word from him.
Does that whole guys 3 day no call rule still exist?
I sent him a quick msg Saturday morning on th edating site saying I hope he had a great sleep and to enjoy his week-end. Did I ruin my shot?
Maybe I am reading too far into things.
I just really felt that connection with him and don't want to close the door on him just yet if there is still hope of him ringing the bell again.
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