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DO THEY HAVE ANYTHING WORTH RISKING HER PRIDE OVER??

During high school, a guy and I always had an unbreakable attraction for each other. However, we moved in different circles and either I was dating someone or he was.

There were times we came close to becoming a couple, but our immaturity always got in the way. After we graduated, we were both single and we were able to be together. Everything seemed perfect, but by the end of the summer, the pressure of work and college (he's paying for it himself) got to him and he freaked out and said he couldn't handle having a relationship.

Recently, I saw him and he didn't flirt with me like he has in the past. I don't know what to think. A part of me is still attracted to him, but I'm confused about how he feels and I'm wondering if I'm just crazy.

Do I tell him how I feel or do I say nothing and see what happens? No one I've dated before or after him has made me feel this way and even our acquaintances have recognized the attraction between us and often wonder why we can't seem to work things out.

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    I say tell him how you feel. What do you have to lose? Maybe he didn't flirt because of how he ended it.

    I think you will feel better about it if you talk to him about it

    reply to Tamara
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    This is a fairytale. The whole high school sweetheart, or unresolved sexual tension sweetheart doesn't often pan out in real life these days. How long has it been since high school? I think you should just let it go and shrug it off. There are plenty of fish.

    reply to BirdofHermes
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    Absence *sometimes* makes the heart grow fonder...if it's meant to be, it will work when the time is right. Like the expression "If you love something set it free, if it comes back, it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was yours," just trust that things will work out for you whether you end up together or not. Tell him how you feel if you'll feel better knowing there weren't things left unsaid. Then as hard as it is, let go. You'll both grow in your perspective and experience when you go your separate ways. No matter what, you'll always have a strong connection and respect for one another if you part on good terms and give him the space he seems to need right now.

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