Ask E. Jean - Tormented? Driven Witless? Whipsawed by confusion?

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So I met this guy at a club a week ago, and we had kissed that night while we were dancing. I decided to exchange numbers with him that night, and then we parted ways. The next day, he texted me sometime in the afternoon. We talked about random things, he asked me to tell him about myself, etc. The next day, he texts me "good morning," and we talked throughout the remainder of the day by text message. That same night, he calls me. We talked on the phone for a few hours and had a pretty good conversation. A day or so after that, he asked me if I would go on a date with him, so at first I was hesitant, but decided that I should go for it. He took me to one of his favorite, local restaurants and he opened every door for me, pulled out my chair for me to sit, etc. We had a great conversation the entire time, laughing and smiling, and he maintained eye contact pretty much the entire time. He kept holding my hand and gazing into my eyes, that whole romantic look, so I was completely in awe. After that, we ended up spending hours together talking, which also had moments of intense, passoinate kissing, but did not lead to sex (which I would not have done, anyway). He even told me that he's been telling his mother and friends about me, which I feel makes him seem seriously interested. I felt that the date went amazing, and he said he enjoyed it too. Now I'm confused because the day after the date, it took him so long to text me back. Now i'm the one who contacts him first, although he did call me back to talk on the phone last night. I'm not sure if he's busy, playing hard to get, or just isn't very interested anymore? I don't know what to do in this situation. Please help!

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    Play it cool. Go out and do stuff with friends, and let him contact you.

    reply to Natalie
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    Just keep in touch but try not to analyze everything too much. It is hard I know, but often just leads to going in mental circles.

    I think it is perfectly fine if you keep in touch with him to show your interest. What do you have to lose? Just be realistic about what can happen in these early days and see where it goes without panicking or playing too hard to get.


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    It looks like you caught a fish in your net - cool! But don't pull the net up yet - you could catch more fish. Bigger fish. Better fish. Reliable fish. Sexy fish. ETC

    In other words, this man is a possibility and it might LOOK like he's at the top of the list, but that's only because you haven't left the net underwater long enough to see what else swims your way. Keep things exactly as you want to keep them - so examine your motives. Sure, this guy seems super nice but neither of you has made a move towards something other than what it was - a date. A GOOD date.

    Options open, eyes open, heart open enough to be available.

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