I had an ex like this and eventually had to dump him for it. It wasn't that I was jealous, it was that he was being disrespectful by his constant need to stroke his own ego with female attention rather than focus on me. It was a major turnoff to see his insecurity on display like that too.

If he can't stop doing this when you're present, I just don't know what to tell you. It's a simple enough request. The idea that he can continuously hurt your feelings because he is so insecure is troubling.

This is a dealbreaker for me. If you tell someone that something they are doing is hurting your feelings and they wont' change it or talk about it, that's selfish and not a partnership.

Yes, well he thinks he is a charmer and no mistake. The only problem is there is nothing charming about someone who flirts to the point of making people uncomfortable.

There is a way to do it and that is if it is so over the top it is obvious he is kidding around and if he also follows up by paying lots of attention to you.

Obviously this is not the case and for him to get angry and not want to talk about it is almost worse than the flirting. Communication is key and if you can't talk about things it is only a matter of time before there is a complete break down.

You need to think, as mentioned, about the deal breaker part of this and lay it on the line to him, especially the part about not discussing problems. That will be key FOREVER and it is something he needs to realize.

yes..if he doesn't respect how you feel, he's out!

Agreed! It is troubling and if he can't change that