Crazy is is crazy does, Cycy......well, I became suspicious when my computer broke down and I had to borrow his. I went on craigslist looking for jobs and I saw the personals section highlighted, which indicates it was previously viewed......Btw, what do you mean, he did not see the need to delete it? He deletes all other miscellaneous emails; i.e. spam, old news, on a daily basis. It's been almost a week since my fake email, and it's still there!

me and my friends go to the personals section on craigslist to laugh at the bad ads. My one friend is a radio DJ and has a segment called "Craigslist Personal Ad of the day" where she finds the most desperate one and they discuss it on air.

You did this to yourself.

The only thing I can think of is ...

If he didn't respond then what are you worried about? Let it go!

...also, stop going on his email. That's an invasion of privacy and, frankly, kind of crazy.

If I were your boyfriend and I found out you did that, Anon, we'd no longer be together. Just sayin'.

Wow that's a whole lot of crazy. You pretended to be someone else to try to get your boyfriend into a trap?

If you obviously have trust issues, why are you with him?

In which case, sit tight. He might be saving it so he can reply. If/when that happens, then you have a real reason to worry.

Seriously though, I do hope you overcome these trust issues and learn how to communicate openly.

I really hope you're joking.

to continue with this charade is asking for trouble and quite frankly, controlling and manipulative. Anon, you're trying to get him to mess up so you can go "ha! I knew it!"

Oh and for the record, I'm in a serious, amazing relationship with a great guy and I check that stuff on craigslist all the time because it's hilarious!

You are advocating game playing, and you know it.

YES! I am guilty of looking in those sections just because they are hilarious.

Anon really? what you did is wrong and inmature. He problably saw it and ignored because he just might not really care for it, he might "OMG" really be a good guy.

And for the record, why do you have to "pretend to be the woman of his dreams?" If he's with you, then obviously you're what he wants (minus the major invasion of privacy and breaking into his email.)

We see what we want to see, Anon.

I would never look through my boyfriend's email. Infact, he left his gmail open the other day and I promptly logged him out.

The way that you've betrayed him is far worse than the way that you think he's betrayed you.

I hope he catches you. And I hope you learn from this.

EDIT: It has never crossed my mind to invade someone's privacy. It's creepy and that's how you lose friends.

OMG, woman, what in the HELL is wrong with you?

Truly, you are seriously effed in the head to try to gaslight your b/f like that.

The poor guy was probably clicking through sites and clicked on one absentmindedly that happened to land on the personal's page on Craig's List. He probably doesn't even remember being on the site.

He's left that email there because he thinks he's probably been hacked (which in essence he has) and is keeping it as evidence in the event there are any more issues.

I'm sorry. I don't mean to be harsh, but I had a b/f once that did stuff like that. He could turn the most innocent thing I'd do into an international incident of espionage, infidelity and co-conspiracy. And I had simply mistakenly clicked on a wrong link. I had a lot more fun in his warped mind than I ever did in real life.

Truly, girl...get a grip on yourself, before this guy tires of your insecure, irrational ways.

Congratulations! You're an idiot and you deserve whatever response he gives you. Break up with him now since what you really want is for him to disappoint you anyway.

YES! She's looking for a way out. I can't believe I never saw that before..

Spare him the headache and break it off.

See, I think of it this way. If he were seriously cheating and you needed to borrow his computer, the last thing he would do is leave such an obvious trail for you to follow.

The grown-up thing for you to have done is ask him, flat out if something worried you and not play these games.

If you have any sense and you still want to be with him, get this out of your head and never snoop again.

Anon, you're a moron. WTF kind of crazy bitch does shit like this?! Seriously, this takes the cake of the weirdest, most insecure bullshit pulled by a psycho ex-girlfriend (that's what you'll be soon, get used to the sound of it) I've heard in a while. There's no way to fix this so just let it GO. I'd say you can:

A. jump off a bridge
B. dump him before he finds out what a loony you are
C. pull your shit together and stop being a fucking PSYCHO

I see no other options. Pssst...I'd pick C.

This is like something out of Shakespeare!

Cymbaline plot: http://www.shakespeare-literature.com/Cymbeline/0.html

Do you see how freaking COMPLICATED things become? All because Posthumous wanted to test his wife's fidelity. All because he assumed the worst of her. People end up beheaded for Christ's sake!

Shakespeare knew everything, so heed his lessons: No good comes from this kind of bullshit. Assume the best of those you love.

this seriously can't be a real question....if it is, get some help.

that is psycho behavior. get a grip!

I'm not invading his privacy. He suggested we share an email address because he has "nothing to hide". Before I sent my fake email i found a real one in the trash section. It stated "thanks for responding to my ad" and had a link to a website with sex all over it. Many of you think I'm trying to "catch" him cheating. Sure, I'm curious about that, but I'm more concerned with coming to terms with the unrealistic expectations of monogamy. I'm even considering having "back ups", which is my term for platonic relationships "just in case". Which is stupid, but aren't prenups for "just in case"?
Miss Beth: you put a smile on my face.

I am 100% certain that when he suggested you share an email, he didn't have this bullshit in mind. Sharing his e-mail with you shouldn't have made you trust him less. In fact, it gives you permission to say, "hey, I saw this thing in your trash folder with sex shit in it. What's up with that?"

As for coming to terms with unrealistic expectations of monogomy...this is not how you come to terms with anything. This is how you drive both you and him crazy and come up with UNREALISTIC concerns and delusions. There is nothing "real" about what you're doing.

If you have questions you want to ponder and explore about monogomy, do it on your own--don't involve him.

I'm also not quite sure why you need a back up if this relationship doesn't work out. Would it kill you to spend some time alone? I think if you want to figure anything out about relationships, monogomy, whatever, it would do you good to remove yourself from them for some objectivity.

You sound terrified of being alone. That's no way to live, Anon. If you are questioning the usefulness or validity of monogamy yourself, then why go behind your boyfriend's back and invade his privacy? Why not just come out and ask him if he's sleeping with someone else?

You need to walk the talk.

I call shenanigans.

Anon, you said, "He doesn't know I know his password and I checked his email to see what he did."

Then you said, "I'm not invading his privacy. He suggested we share an email address because he has 'nothing to hide'."

You also said that you sent a fake email. You also responded to HIS personal ad rather than being an adult and confronting him.

Shenanigans on so many levels.

I call BS as well. Too many contradictions, sounds like anon is making it up as she goes.

Shenanigans.

But just for the record, I get a lot of emails pretending a prior relationship because they want me to open the email, so that doesn't necessarily mean anything.

Yup !!

What does it mean?

It means he didn't delete this email.

I think the Vixens are being overly harsh. I don't necessarily agree that you are a horrible person and a psycho. However, you did go to a lot of trouble to see if your boyfriend would email a ficticious woman and then you imagined several scenarios if he did-- him wanting a backup. You later said you are having issues coming to terms with monogamy and want a backup for yourself. I think you are projecting your own issues onto your boyfriend.

As to the email in his trash, it could have either been spam or a CL scam that he repsonded to thinking it was a real woman. There is one way to find out--- ask him. If you truly share the email, then ask him about the fake email you sent. It's still there and you share the email, right?

Have a talk with your bf. Maybe it's time to have the "let's NOT be exclusive" talk.

I am pretty taken aback at how harsh so many of you are being with this anon.

She's got her OWN issues she's dealing with, as each one of us does to some degree or another, and is asking for our guidance on it. If she does have trust issues, it could be much deeper rooted than meets the eye - who are we to judge? We have our own ticks and things which if we shared with others would make them perhaps think of us as a bit f&cked up...who knows?

Anyway, I think there are more issues here, anon, than what your question alone has posed. Perhaps there are things you are questioning about yourself, and therfore, the relationship? Have you had monogomy issues in the past which you are now bringing into this relationship?

If he did in fact allow you to borrow his computer, I doubt he had anything malicious going on, but since he does not know you have his password, you are going to have to just be up front and ask him if he is perhaps interested in others, or if he is satisfied with you alone? And, seems as if you need to ask the same question to yourself.

S, thank you. You are a beautiful spirit.

i have no idea what is the use of judging others.

anon, i would have done the same thing as you did. first of all out of curiosity, it's just too much fun to find new things, even some of them are not that positive, still it's the process of discovering.

second, why shouldn't you try to "catch" your boy with something? if he loves you he will understand.

if somebody else was doing a similar thing to me as going through my private stuff i would have no objections cause a never have anything to hide. and it did happen. one of my friends found in my computer some pictures with a person whom he didn't like and feel upset about them. but i had the patience to explain and at the end of the day i was actually glad i could solve out another situation which might have became problematic otherwise. (meaning if it wouldn't have been discovered)

so i encourage you to listen to what you feel, you can't be wrong by doing so