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This may sound silly, but is really causing my bf and I to argue... He is the messiest eater I have ever seen. I can't stand it! We can barely barely go out to eat together anymore cause I get embarassed easily. It also makes me look like a nag. Am I overreacting?this isn't a deal breaker cause I really love him and everything else is great...I just need some advice.

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    Samantha
    This is highly annoying--but short of shitting your pants at the dinner table and saying you'll change them when he can hold his food in his mouth without spewing it everywhere, I don't really know what you can do. I'll think on it--but I'd probably go on nagging. If he's allowed to be a slob, you're allowed to be a nag. But hopefully some other vixens can come up with a better solution.

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    Maggie
    What do you mean by messy? Does he like "see food"? Does he smack as he eats? Or does he just generally leave the table a mess?

    If it's the last (of the three), I would just ignore it.

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    Josephine
    What is he doing and why is he doing it?

    Is he talking with his mouth full? Or gesturing with his food so it flies around?

    Is he really as messy as he seems or are you very sensitive about it?

    One of the reasons I think people eat together is so they have to pay attention to their own food because no one likes to look at someone else eating!

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    He doesn't chew with his mouth open. He has good manners. He's Italian let's say that, so he gestures alot when he talks and if his fork is in his hand when he's excited about what he's talking about, watch out! But food falling off the plate sometimes too...

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    Josephine
    Personally, as a fellow Italian who talks with her hands, I find holding a utensil gets in the way. But that is just me.

    If I were you, I would laugh and tell him, you can't keep track of what he is saying when you are watching where the food will land!


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    Brynne
    anonymous wrote: He doesn't chew with his mouth open. He has good manners. He's Italian let's say that, so he gestures alot when he talks and if his fork is in his hand when he's excited about what he's talking about, watch out! But food falling off the plate sometimes too...

    I think that's adorable. Seriously. I was briefly involved with an Italian man, and he was the same way. Flawless table manners, yet I still came home with bread crumbs in my hair.

    If he is wonderful in all other ways, I would let it go.

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    Samantha
    anonymous wrote: He doesn't chew with his mouth open. He has good manners. He's Italian let's say that, so he gestures alot when he talks and if his fork is in his hand when he's excited about what he's talking about, watch out! But food falling off the plate sometimes too...

    Okay, that's not so bad. I was picturing somebody sticking their face directly into their plate like a trough and then doing spit take after spit take.

    Sit further away from him and laugh it off.


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